LOVELIFE?
Hala, ano yun? Magpapasko na, pinoproblema ko ‘yan. At mas pinoproblema ko pa ‘yan kaysa sa mga school stuffs. At hindi ko din alam kung bakit. Ang hirap, ang sakit. Ganito pala ‘yun. Yung nagmahal ka at natuto ka ng maraming bagay, pero hindi mo alam kung may kasiguraduhan. Sabagay, kaka-ibang relasyon kasi ang pinasok ko. Hindi normal at lalong hindi tanggap ng nakararami.
Ano nga ba ang LOVE? - Hindi ko din alam.
Pero para sa akin, pag may mga bagay akong
nagawa na hindi ko alam na kaya ko palang gawin, LOVE na ‘yun. Sabi nga ng
professor namin, nasa post modern world na tayo – there is no absolute
truth. Hindi mo malalaman ang ibig sabihin ng LOVE kung hindi mo pa ito
nararanasan. At hindi mo din masasabi kung LOVE na nga ito kung wala kang
nararamdaman.
The Physicist
Biologically,
love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more
permanent. We talk about love being blind or unconditional, in the sense that
we have no control over it. But then, that is not so surprising since love is
basically chemistry.
-Jim Al-Khalili is a theoretical physicist and science writer
“Neurological condition” – Ang lalim naman.
Utak naman talaga nagdidikta sa tao kung anu ang mararamdaman niya. Sinasabi
lang natin na “Mahal na mahal kita from the bottom of my heart.” Pero sa
hypothalamus nanggagaling yung mga ganito nararamdaman natin, at ito ‘yung
parte ng utak natin na nagre-release ng hormones para maramadaman natin ang LOVE.
The Psychotherapist
Unlike
us, the ancients did not lump all the various emotions that we label
"love" under the one word. They had several variations: Philia,
Ludus, Pragma, Agape, Philautia, and Eros.
Pragma is the
mature love that develops over a long period of time between long-term couples
and involves actively practising goodwill, commitment, compromise and
understanding.
-Philippa Perry is a psychotherapist and author of Couch Fiction
Hindi ko alam kung mature na ba ako pag dating
sa pakikipag-relasyon. Pero tulad nga ng sabi ko, marami na ‘kong nagawang
bagay na hindi ko akalaing kaya ko at magagawa ko. At lalong hindi ko alam kung
mature love ba ang mayroon kaming dalawa.
The Philosopher
The
answer remains elusive in part because love is not one thing. Without the
commitment, it is mere infatuation. Without the passion, it is mere dedication.
Without nurturing, even the best can wither and die.
-Julian Baggini is a philosopher and writer
Commitment = BIG WORD. Sa totoo lang,
nakipagrelasyon ako ng hindi malinaw sa’kin ang ibig sabihin ng commitment.
Passion? -- A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger.
Actually, sexual desire ang naiisip ko pag naririnig ko ang salitang ito. Pero
siguro ang LOVE ay unconditional.
The Romantic Novelist
Love
is the driver for all great stories.. What separates you from love, the
obstacles that stand in its way. It is usually at those points that love is
everything.
-Jojo Moyes is a two-time winner of the Romantic Novel of the
Year award
Marami na ‘kong nagawa, mabuti at masama.
Nagawa ko kasi kaya ko, nagawa ko kasi gusto ko, at nagawa ko dahil nagmamahal
ako. At marami pa kong nagagawa at gagawin dahil sa nararamdaman ko.
The Nun
Love is more easily experienced than
defined. The paradox
of love is that it is supremely free yet attaches us with bonds stronger than
death. It cannot be bought or sold; there is nothing it cannot face; love is
life's greatest blessing.
Para sakin, tama naman yung mga nabanggit. Maraming
depinisyon ng LOVE. Depende sa taong nakakaramdam nito at kung para kanino o
san niya ito nararamdaman. Maraming ibig-sabihin at marami ring paraan para
masabi na pagmamahal na ang nararamdaman ng isang tao.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not
boast, it is not proud. It
does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in
evil but
rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes, always perseveres.” - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Di ko ba talaga alam kung bakit eto yung napili
ko. Pero eto kasi yung alam kong makaka-relate ako at marami kong masasabi, at
malalaman kung bakit ganito yung nararamdaman ko. Di ko na nga naiisip sarili
ko eh. Sa ngayon, malabo pa din. Pero alam ko, darating din yung araw na
maiintindihan ko ang mga bagay bagay.
SOURCES:
Biologically, love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent. We talk about love being blind or unconditional, in the sense that we have no control over it. But then, that is not so surprising since love is basically chemistry.
Unlike us, the ancients did not lump all the various emotions that we label "love" under the one word. They had several variations: Philia, Ludus, Pragma, Agape, Philautia, and Eros.
Pragma is the mature love that develops over a long period of time between long-term couples and involves actively practising goodwill, commitment, compromise and understanding.
The answer remains elusive in part because love is not one thing. Without the commitment, it is mere infatuation. Without the passion, it is mere dedication. Without nurturing, even the best can wither and die.
Love is the driver for all great stories.. What separates you from love, the obstacles that stand in its way. It is usually at those points that love is everything.
select all love-change to----pagmamahal.. hahaha. hay iba talaga kapag in love
ReplyDeleteSorry naman ahh. :))
DeleteDaming kasabihaaan :))))
ReplyDeleteUna po kahit plural, wala pong 's' ang stuff hehe, Proper citations po at mas pababawin pa ng kaunti ang mga explanations. :)
ReplyDeletesorry naman po :(
DeleteNatuwa ako sa mga nilagay mong explanations ng iba't-ibang propesyon about sa love. At tingin ko, nakatulong 'yun para mas maintindihan ko 'yung theory. :)
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ReplyDeletePakiayos ang citation please.
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Pakiayos ang grammar maging ang mga spelling ng mga salita.
Di ay 'Di, dahil pinaikling "hindi" 'yun.
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Maayos ang train of thought dahil naging tungungan ang
iba't ibang depinisyon ng pag-ibig.
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Good job. :)
Alam ko nagcomment na ko dito, pero bakit wala? HAHA. Anyw, mas okay siguro kung pagsasamasamahin mo ung mga quote (kung ganyang atake pa din ung gagawin mo sa final draft.) Tapos kung may example, life experiences ganun :)
ReplyDeleteAng daming quote :) pedeng ipang-gm . :P
ReplyDeleteNaguluhan lang ako ng bahagya sa dami ng quote . Mas ipaliwanag pa yun stand mo .
So anong teorya mo? Post modernism kasi walang absolute truth ang love? Kung ganon bakit sa love lang napokus? Kung about love naman talaga, anong eksaktong teorya naman? Honestly, nalito ako.
ReplyDeleteMagaan siyang basahin at hindi boring. All the quotes you included really made me think.
Proper citations, punctautions and use of words lang. I-proofread mo bago ka mag-publish.
Dahil hindi malinaw (para sakin) ang teorya, hindi din malinawangnaging critic mo.
It was a nice article content-wise, but I think this isn't a critic :)
Good job nonetheless :)
- use the proper citation :)
ReplyDelete- masyadong masakit sa mata ang font color :)
- i-proof read muna :)
Hi! Let me commend you for having the guts to write about what has been a perennial keynote. :) Well, the way I see it, your composition has its strong and weak points. Let me start with the good ones:
ReplyDeletea) You were able to cite good resource persons like your professor, physicist, philosopher, and from a nun for it gives you and your readers different vistas when it comes to your topic which happens to be love.
b) It was a smart move that you started with us being in the post-modern world and therefore there is no absolute proof as it set your safety parameters in your composition and make other people's insights about love relevant to your written work.
For the weak points:
a) the individuals you cited were all credible, only I would have to agree with the majority with regards to your citations :( Personally, I am wondering where you got those lines. for example with the nun, Catherine Wybourne it could have been better had you indicated when and where exactly did she said her opinion about love.
b) Because there was no proper citation, it was quite hard to distinguish which wasa cited line and which was your opinion.
c) The composition could have been better had you made a wrap-up / conclusion of your thoughts about love.
Good day and Godbless! :)